Showing posts with label lovers. Show all posts
Showing posts with label lovers. Show all posts
Saturday, October 19, 2019
Bites of Philosophy - the Emptiness of Grindr
Online dating is such a great new way of meeting up with people, even hooking up with people but I just can't stand or willing to participate in the Tango oftentimes. Drives me crazy and just wants to cut the crap, meet up and go from there. I am part of the impatient lot in Online Dating. I guess I still missed the old-timey style of meeting up at a gay bar. Why does a gay bar in the US has to be real noisy like a club puzzles me as well!
Monday, December 2, 2013
Bites of Philosophy - Love is...
Then I was told somebody is going to come to me soon...
and he gave me a card telling me...
"Love is patient,
Love is kind.
It is not jealous,
love is not pompous,
it is not inflated, it is not rude,
it does not seek its own interests,
it is not quick-tempered,
it does not brood over injury,
it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoice with the truth.
It bears all things,
believes all things,
hope all things,
endures all things.
Love never fails...
so Faith, Hope, Love remain,
these three; but the greatest of these is love." - 1 Corinthians Ch.13:4-8b,13
this is how love should be and what I should do that I have been told
and if I was going to have or find someone, it is these virtues in someone I am looking for as well
Have your patient and wait because at the end of it all,
it is the one who is there for you all the time is the one who worth it but doesn't take too long,
people come people go, no one was supposed to wait for you
if someone gives you some love, love back :)
you know after all I
"once again I'm thinking about
Taking the easy way out
But if I let you go I will never know
What my life would be holding you close to me
Will I ever see you smiling back at me?
How will I know
if I let you go? " - If I let you go - Westlife
and he gave me a card telling me...
"Love is patient,
Love is kind.
It is not jealous,
love is not pompous,
it is not inflated, it is not rude,
it does not seek its own interests,
it is not quick-tempered,
it does not brood over injury,
it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoice with the truth.
It bears all things,
believes all things,
hope all things,
endures all things.
Love never fails...
so Faith, Hope, Love remain,
these three; but the greatest of these is love." - 1 Corinthians Ch.13:4-8b,13
this is how love should be and what I should do that I have been told
and if I was going to have or find someone, it is these virtues in someone I am looking for as well
Have your patient and wait because at the end of it all,
it is the one who is there for you all the time is the one who worth it but doesn't take too long,
people come people go, no one was supposed to wait for you
if someone gives you some love, love back :)
you know after all I
"once again I'm thinking about
Taking the easy way out
But if I let you go I will never know
What my life would be holding you close to me
Will I ever see you smiling back at me?
How will I know
if I let you go? " - If I let you go - Westlife
so yea no one knows till the end so wait and see who are capable to do those,
look in them.
Saturday, November 30, 2013
Relationships: When what you see isn't what you get
some people think that you aren't compatible to be with because you can't have a good conversation between or the conversations doesn't flow between you two but what they don't know is the fact that they have taken your breath away, they have spin your mind at first and that you just could not have said anything or did not know what to say at ALL and only thing u can do is 'silly' laughing... until you finally make up your mind and start getting back on track.
One thing I do believe is that I think people met for a reason, it's either a blessing or a lesson or both. Are you one of the positives or one of the experiences? It has nothing to deal with did thing worked out between two of you or not, it does not matter even, after all, it wasn't a match between, it can still be a blessing because I believe loves never dies and live within, it transforms maybe, or like energy, it is merely there. Be happy for the right experiences, it is truly remarkable how we do not see what we have and learn something from the bad experiences. I believe all things are good though you can make it better. It is always helpful to put your smiles on if you want someone to smiles or you want to be happy yourself because your emotions do spread, it is like a virus, and it has to be a good virus if that's what it is :)
When you meet someone more serious, then you do in life and relationship, and when they are actually telling you and acting and being more then you do, you probably get scared at first but slow down your mind a little, isn't that what you wanted all these time after all?
People often have different approaches to things, and is it good or bad that people have differences? Is that a bad thing if someone changes for another person? Is it considered too big of a sacrifice if someone wants to change at the very beginning of getting to know someone?
Most people wanted to have full control of their life, but apparently we don't but we always wanted to hold on to that little control we have in this world at least, and we do not want to leave any of the little freedom we have at all as well, and that is why people don't like to be in a committed relationship. Because when we do get into a relationship, you have to share that little control you have in your life, you have to even share a part of the little freedom that you have, and that's what makes it scary, and people often wanted to be casual because we always wanted to be in full control.
For me, I think that if someone is changing for you or even only having thought of that, they only did that because they believe it's worthwhile. The only did that because they think you worth your time to do so, and is that a good or bad thing if this is happening at the very beginning of a relationship? Not talking about serious relationships of any kind but only as of date or as part of knowing each other, is that good or bad? If I really have to answer that, I can only say I will be way more interested in a person who can take a leap of faith, a person who can trust and a person who loves rather then only the physical interaction you can have. I am not saying they aren't essential or delightful, but that's what truly makes a relationship beautiful and lasts long.
Don't be scared of people who share a lot to you because it is those who don't share, you should be aware and worry of. I am a very patient person, and I give a lot of second chances because I think it is imperative to forgive and to give chances for change, chances to know, chances to understand each other and you need to spend time on one thing before you can know does the person really worthwhile.
Don't ask why NOT?
My friend Francis once said: "when you're gay and find a man who's faithful to you, but that shit on lock, because faithful gay men are a dying species." I am trying to hold on the faithful endangered species that I found, but not lock :p lol though, are you holding on to your chances?
One thing I do believe is that I think people met for a reason, it's either a blessing or a lesson or both. Are you one of the positives or one of the experiences? It has nothing to deal with did thing worked out between two of you or not, it does not matter even, after all, it wasn't a match between, it can still be a blessing because I believe loves never dies and live within, it transforms maybe, or like energy, it is merely there. Be happy for the right experiences, it is truly remarkable how we do not see what we have and learn something from the bad experiences. I believe all things are good though you can make it better. It is always helpful to put your smiles on if you want someone to smiles or you want to be happy yourself because your emotions do spread, it is like a virus, and it has to be a good virus if that's what it is :)
When you meet someone more serious, then you do in life and relationship, and when they are actually telling you and acting and being more then you do, you probably get scared at first but slow down your mind a little, isn't that what you wanted all these time after all?
People often have different approaches to things, and is it good or bad that people have differences? Is that a bad thing if someone changes for another person? Is it considered too big of a sacrifice if someone wants to change at the very beginning of getting to know someone?
Most people wanted to have full control of their life, but apparently we don't but we always wanted to hold on to that little control we have in this world at least, and we do not want to leave any of the little freedom we have at all as well, and that is why people don't like to be in a committed relationship. Because when we do get into a relationship, you have to share that little control you have in your life, you have to even share a part of the little freedom that you have, and that's what makes it scary, and people often wanted to be casual because we always wanted to be in full control.
For me, I think that if someone is changing for you or even only having thought of that, they only did that because they believe it's worthwhile. The only did that because they think you worth your time to do so, and is that a good or bad thing if this is happening at the very beginning of a relationship? Not talking about serious relationships of any kind but only as of date or as part of knowing each other, is that good or bad? If I really have to answer that, I can only say I will be way more interested in a person who can take a leap of faith, a person who can trust and a person who loves rather then only the physical interaction you can have. I am not saying they aren't essential or delightful, but that's what truly makes a relationship beautiful and lasts long.
Don't be scared of people who share a lot to you because it is those who don't share, you should be aware and worry of. I am a very patient person, and I give a lot of second chances because I think it is imperative to forgive and to give chances for change, chances to know, chances to understand each other and you need to spend time on one thing before you can know does the person really worthwhile.
Don't ask why NOT?
My friend Francis once said: "when you're gay and find a man who's faithful to you, but that shit on lock, because faithful gay men are a dying species." I am trying to hold on the faithful endangered species that I found, but not lock :p lol though, are you holding on to your chances?
Wednesday, June 26, 2013
DOMA has been struck down
the court has decided by 5-4 that
DOMA is unconstitutional as a deprivation of the equal liberty of persons that is protected by the Fifth Amendment.
Prop 8. sent back to the lower court on standing
Here is the link to the opinion: http://www.supremecourt.gov/opinions/12pdf/12-307_g2bh.pdf
Click here to see the senario
as DOMA Struck down and Prop 8 case dismissed on standing
the challenge to the constitutionality of California's Proposition 8, which bans same-sex marriage: After the two same-sex couples filed their challenge to Proposition 8 in federal court in California, the California government officials who would normally have defended the law in court, declined to do so. So the proponents of Proposition 8 stepped in to defend the law, and the California Supreme Court (in response to a request by the lower court) ruled that they could do so under state law. But today the Supreme Court held that the proponents do not have the legal right to defend the law in court. As a result, it held, the decision by the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Ninth Circuit, the intermediate appellate court, has no legal force, and it sent the case back to that court with instructions for it to dismiss the case.
DOMA is unconstitutional as a deprivation of the equal liberty of persons that is protected by the Fifth Amendment.
Prop 8. sent back to the lower court on standing
Here is the link to the opinion: http://www.supremecourt.gov/opinions/12pdf/12-307_g2bh.pdf
Click here to see the senario
as DOMA Struck down and Prop 8 case dismissed on standing
the challenge to the constitutionality of California's Proposition 8, which bans same-sex marriage: After the two same-sex couples filed their challenge to Proposition 8 in federal court in California, the California government officials who would normally have defended the law in court, declined to do so. So the proponents of Proposition 8 stepped in to defend the law, and the California Supreme Court (in response to a request by the lower court) ruled that they could do so under state law. But today the Supreme Court held that the proponents do not have the legal right to defend the law in court. As a result, it held, the decision by the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Ninth Circuit, the intermediate appellate court, has no legal force, and it sent the case back to that court with instructions for it to dismiss the case.
Monday, October 8, 2012
Love - Part 2, Are you letting it go?
Some people think, they don’t love someone anymore, they
can’t care about it anymore but until you really leave it, until they thing is
not longer yours, you just started to miss it. Sometimes you would have a
chance to save it, rescue it back but it’s not always like that.
You knew that thing is not gonna happen between, or you just
know it’s not going to now or soon, you thought you let it go and start going
around but when you see that person in front of you again, you try to avoid
them, you try not to talk to them but when you did or you just see things that
you thought is mean nothing to you
BUT
You do actually have feelings,
It’s not it mean nothing to you but yourself telling you
that it “Shouldn’t” mean something to you, that’s the struggle you have. It’s
like a kid having something that mom tell him not to and you have that little
fear inside you but also excited. Then when you got figure that you have it and
it just taken from you…
… It’s just killing you from inside, that tough feelings
like knife cutting, the worse part of it is, it didn’t cut you open from
outside but inside. It just tear you off like a worm eating you in there but
you can’t do anything with your bare hands.
There’s always a dark side if there’s bright one
After all if you are so dedicated, time may make you a
winner for him but also a loser for other things and it is not guarantee that
you may have a positive outcome as well, so is it even worth you to do so?
Are you sure about it?
Thanks for telling me that you haven’t been so sure about
things in your life but this…(just you will understand lol)
People are always waiting “the one”, sometimes you met “the one”
of yours but sadly sometimes, you are just not “the one” for him. People try to
let go but after all they just found out no matter how you let it go, it won’t
so you better just keep a special place for him deep in your heart. That’s
easier perhaps… life still go on and sometimes, that person who had a special
place in your heart may just be taken or replaced by someone else, something
else till time cross, you meet each other again, feelings burn, situation may
just not changing but the feelings are. Sometimes people become best friend,
sometimes they become boyfriends, girlfriends, sometimes enemy but no one ever
know but it you tries it out, right?
Long distance relationship seems never work, yea it didn’t
when you worry about it thinking of how future will be, even sometimes the
future thing will help you to have some hope..… but for me, as Albert Einstein
said “ I never worry about the future, it come soon enough” “ Thus each person
by his fears gives wings to rumor, and, without any real source of
apprehension, men fear what they themselves have imagines. – Lucan.
When you kiss, most people always close their eyes ofcoz you
will have a little peak sometimes: p but you know, kisses are so nice, is
because the best of it is without you watching… coz you imagination make it
work even better, the feelings of your lips just telling you how much you want
it on you, how much you like that person.
When love comes, you shouldn’t be able to stop it coz the feeling can be just so strong that you can’t even stop thinking of that person, you may tell yourself to back off, you may tell yourself not to miss and start something new but when finally got to meet again, you just can’t help it, you can stop yourself from expressing it but you couldn’t stop what grow inside you.
When love comes, you shouldn’t be able to stop it coz the feeling can be just so strong that you can’t even stop thinking of that person, you may tell yourself to back off, you may tell yourself not to miss and start something new but when finally got to meet again, you just can’t help it, you can stop yourself from expressing it but you couldn’t stop what grow inside you.
You can bless him by your skin but not your heart even you
say so… it’s all about timing; don’t
waste it, not now, not ever….
I won't give up, i won't.....
Sunday, July 8, 2012
Movie - The Crazies
In the middle of the night, being bored alone, watching Fox Movie Premium on my cable tv... it's a movie about disease and people sort of zombies but after all it's just all about trust.
it starts with a nice small little town, one day a plane crash and it contain a original virus which is going to be disposal and vanish in Texas but the plane just crash there and the virus start to spread. you know they just spread spread spread..... something normal about movies going...
There're people who dump their wife and children so they thought they can survive following the instructions of the government, some just can't ditch their families behind and got back for them and save them. for all the love and god sake, the couple get away from the disaster and the brutal killing of government, of cause it's all just movie and stories
but the very true thing is... all are just about trust of friends, lover, everyone...
someone told me you know some of the societies or circle, they just don't have trust, nothing is honest, maybe that's the way it works but that still doesn't mean you shouldn't give on and give a try for that. For god sake some lies are just for goods, you won't be happy about knowing the truth anyway, as long as it's not hiding from you forever or just something make you lost something, just go for it and forgive it... ofcoz cheating is not something which make you have no lost... unless it's an open relationship and i mean... if it's open, hmmmm you have expected that i suppose.
Currently something; is going on with my life besides of I am going to Seattle, if you are my real friend, you would have know it or if you had ever really notice my Facebook, you may have. Nothing really certain for now maybe but I trust and I still have a little faith that this may can work.... I am just gonna tell myself, this will work, this is working, it will be done!... I am going for it.. doing all these for you, are you gonna do the same?
Love you all,
Felix
it starts with a nice small little town, one day a plane crash and it contain a original virus which is going to be disposal and vanish in Texas but the plane just crash there and the virus start to spread. you know they just spread spread spread..... something normal about movies going...
There're people who dump their wife and children so they thought they can survive following the instructions of the government, some just can't ditch their families behind and got back for them and save them. for all the love and god sake, the couple get away from the disaster and the brutal killing of government, of cause it's all just movie and stories
but the very true thing is... all are just about trust of friends, lover, everyone...
someone told me you know some of the societies or circle, they just don't have trust, nothing is honest, maybe that's the way it works but that still doesn't mean you shouldn't give on and give a try for that. For god sake some lies are just for goods, you won't be happy about knowing the truth anyway, as long as it's not hiding from you forever or just something make you lost something, just go for it and forgive it... ofcoz cheating is not something which make you have no lost... unless it's an open relationship and i mean... if it's open, hmmmm you have expected that i suppose.
Currently something; is going on with my life besides of I am going to Seattle, if you are my real friend, you would have know it or if you had ever really notice my Facebook, you may have. Nothing really certain for now maybe but I trust and I still have a little faith that this may can work.... I am just gonna tell myself, this will work, this is working, it will be done!... I am going for it.. doing all these for you, are you gonna do the same?
Love you all,
Felix
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